I've lit some small candles for my and your lost babies, medium for my cousin, large for lost parents and the tallest for grandparents.
Yesterday was a family dinner with DP's boys, at his brothers place with a 4 year old and a 2 month baby. In the first years with DP's boys, the little one would get upset if someone mistook me for his mother and would always correct accusingly "that is not my mother!". But yesterday something different happened. The 4 year old was pointing everyone out at the dinner table: "Uncle DP, cousin, papa, himself, mama, cousin, aunt Valery". Then DP's youngest decided his little cousin should understand that DP was a father too, not just an uncle. And went round the table, pointing out the adults saying "papa, papa, mama, mama". And nobody corrected him. DP noticed it as well. It may have been simplified for a 4 year old, it may have slipped out, I don't know. All I know is that it's been six years (and two weeks) since I first met DP's boys. And this christmas had a little new twinkle for me.Loads of cooking together and an excellent recipe for moist chocolate cake helped to survive as well.
I'm glad there was a positive change for you in celebrating Christmas with DP's boys. And the candles you lit are beautiful. (((hugs)))
ReplyDeleteThat is so sweet!
ReplyDeleteThat is some twinkle!
ReplyDeleteI know it's not the same. Not even close. But I still remember the exact moment I went from 'Uncle G's girlfriend' to 'Aunty Mijke' with my sister in law's children. That change from 'someone who belongs with so and so' to 'someone who belongs with US' was such a huge and important one for me...
I hope your little twinkle will turn into a huge change for you, too!
Aww, that's so sweet! Sounds like it was a nice dinner, and chocolate cake only makes things even better.
ReplyDeleteps. Ik hou me aanbevolen voor het chocolade-cake recept waar je het over hebt... ;-)
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