She answered!
And of course her answer is both wise and funny.
Good news only then.
I agreed with my boss he would tell the team while I'm away to get my big scan this Wednesday.
Such simple solutions.
(I think I can still hide my belly for a little while though. Plus people see me eating candy all the time, so might not be surprised to see me grow ;-)
updated: Apparently I'm not the only one who doesn't want to tell coworkers. And judging by the sheer number of reactions and the post itself it's a hot topic. I guess much depends on what kind of reaction and support you can expect from colleagues...
Monday, September 24, 2012
Sunday, September 23, 2012
4:56 AM
Yesterday was a good day.
Weather was fine, not cold yet, not wet. An excellent day for walking, so I joined the BFG on the big walking tour (Dam to Dam) from Amsterdam to Zaandam, 26 km. (16 miles)
Proud as a peacock I went home, with very sore calves.
My cousin (who knows about these things) advised to drink lots of fluids and to keep moving. Also massaging and warm bath/shower. I discovered quickly that he was right: sitting still, even with my legs up made them hurt more. (Massaging was too painful)
This motivated me enough to go to a birthday party of some friends who have been through a long IF journey. When the invite came a couple of weeks ago I had very carefully asked if they wouldn't hurt having a pregnant guest, and straight away I got the answer I would be more than welcome as they were finally expecting as well. They are 6 weeks ahead of us. At the party I found out they had gone the same route we did! Another friend of them was most pregnant, and somehow we spend most of the evening comparing treatments and bellies. Strange relief to be among a DE-IVF majority. And I left with two pairs of pants.
This morning I think it happened. 4:56 AM. I think I felt something moving...A little blub?. Of course it could be gas. it could be a muscle twitch. it could be my own heartbeat that sometimes resonates in my belly. it could even be my imagination. But I'm hoping it was a sign of life from the grasshopper.
So I'm sitting really still on the sofa, hoping it will happen again. Hoping the magic will capture me (and protect us)
Weather was fine, not cold yet, not wet. An excellent day for walking, so I joined the BFG on the big walking tour (Dam to Dam) from Amsterdam to Zaandam, 26 km. (16 miles)
Proud as a peacock I went home, with very sore calves.
My cousin (who knows about these things) advised to drink lots of fluids and to keep moving. Also massaging and warm bath/shower. I discovered quickly that he was right: sitting still, even with my legs up made them hurt more. (Massaging was too painful)
This motivated me enough to go to a birthday party of some friends who have been through a long IF journey. When the invite came a couple of weeks ago I had very carefully asked if they wouldn't hurt having a pregnant guest, and straight away I got the answer I would be more than welcome as they were finally expecting as well. They are 6 weeks ahead of us. At the party I found out they had gone the same route we did! Another friend of them was most pregnant, and somehow we spend most of the evening comparing treatments and bellies. Strange relief to be among a DE-IVF majority. And I left with two pairs of pants.
This morning I think it happened. 4:56 AM. I think I felt something moving...A little blub?. Of course it could be gas. it could be a muscle twitch. it could be my own heartbeat that sometimes resonates in my belly. it could even be my imagination. But I'm hoping it was a sign of life from the grasshopper.
So I'm sitting really still on the sofa, hoping it will happen again. Hoping the magic will capture me (and protect us)
Thursday, September 20, 2012
Telling....
DP and I don't quite agree on who to tell when and what.
We work at the same company, different departments, different jobs, opposite side of the building. And this Monday he shared the happy news with his team. Then we had our lunch walk where he forgot to mention this. So when he ran off to a meeting and I wandered onto his floor to put the leftovers in the fridge, there were happy faces saying Congratulations!! I stared at them blankly and mute. They filled me in, I blurted out that DP could have warned me, blabbered about things not being so easy and fled.
DP strongly suggested I tell my team too.
Then I read womb4improvement asking for more agony aunt questions.
I've been reading her blog for a long time, this year she was pregnant with twins, first losing one, two weeks later losing the other (at 6 & 8 weeks) and now I wrote her. She replied she will post her answer next Monday. Have to admit I'm looking forward to it. Even if she makes light of it (maybe that will help me lighten up too)
Part of me thinks it's nobodies business. Thinks people will see it any day now, no need to talk about it too. (I gained almost 4 kilo since May)
I just want work to be a place to work, not somewhere I need to guard myself against the 'think positive' comments (as if the one twin didn't make it because of what I thought, or didn't think)
We work at the same company, different departments, different jobs, opposite side of the building. And this Monday he shared the happy news with his team. Then we had our lunch walk where he forgot to mention this. So when he ran off to a meeting and I wandered onto his floor to put the leftovers in the fridge, there were happy faces saying Congratulations!! I stared at them blankly and mute. They filled me in, I blurted out that DP could have warned me, blabbered about things not being so easy and fled.
DP strongly suggested I tell my team too.
Then I read womb4improvement asking for more agony aunt questions.
I've been reading her blog for a long time, this year she was pregnant with twins, first losing one, two weeks later losing the other (at 6 & 8 weeks) and now I wrote her. She replied she will post her answer next Monday. Have to admit I'm looking forward to it. Even if she makes light of it (maybe that will help me lighten up too)
Part of me thinks it's nobodies business. Thinks people will see it any day now, no need to talk about it too. (I gained almost 4 kilo since May)
I just want work to be a place to work, not somewhere I need to guard myself against the 'think positive' comments (as if the one twin didn't make it because of what I thought, or didn't think)
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